Resolutions are mostly about willpower. “I resolve to do whatever it takes to change this super important part of my life if it’s the last thing I do!”I have a strict “no-resolution” stance . Frankly, I’m exhausted by the “do-or-fail” language of most resolutions.I resolve to write my novel!Run a marathon!Travel to Antartica!Whatever…What if you don’t, but you DO write a ton and make loads of progress?What if you run more and really begin to love running. Is that a win?Resolutions so often draw a line in the sand. It’s a win or lose. Progress is poo poo.How often have you or, um, a friend, said, “this will be the year!” If you’re resolving to do the same thing year after year and not doing it, it’s a sign; not working for you .Recently, I was on a call with an old colleague, and we were catching up after a long absence. Like you’d expect, she asked for updates on my life and business.“How’s work going?” she asked.“Great. Great! Did I mention it was great? Um. It’s great. I love it. I do. Um, but I’m in transition.” (Mumble making a change, mumble something about greatest decision ever.)Somehow the rambling sounds the same in my mastermind, with friends, and when I talk to my parents.The harder you work to convince others that your path is great, the less it will actually feel like the truth. When you’re happy, you don’t need to do any convincing. Immediately, I’m set into motion. I need to set some new goals for my business, create and document some target achievements, things to reach for and do. Hello, resolutions: The things that if I do them will mean I’m on the right track, a success.What you and I need to do is forget about New Year’s Resolutions, all the doing you want to do, and think about the promises you’re making to yourself.Related: The Only Thing You Need to Know About The Year Ahead Promises are more like a pledge, a commitment to yourself and often others . It’s your word of honor.Resolutions are like a shout out to the world stating your intention, and a promise is a firm and true whisper that resonates deep within you.
