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Meet the Man in the Chair. He’s not your customer. He may not even know you exist. But he has a need, a problem to solve. And in that moment – before he’s clicked on your ad, visited your site, or called your sales team – his customer lifecycle has already begun.
If you think that the customer lifecycle starts with a purchase, you’re already behind. You’ve lost him.
(Note: The Man in the Chair was an iconic ad published by McGraw-Hill in 1958. The message of the ad is just as clear today as it was almost 70 years ago!)
The Lifecycle Starts with Need
Too many companies still define “customer lifecycle” as the point when cash changes hands. (That’s why I’m refreshing an article I wrote back in 2012 about this topic. I want to bring this concept front and center again. It’s a good reminder.)
That’s erroneous thinking. By then, by the time the customer makes the purchase, the Man in the Chair has already:
- Realized he has a problem to solve.
- Researched and evaluated his options.
- Compared various solutions.
That’s the buyer journey. Once he buys, he enters the customer journey. Together, they make up the full lifecycle. Ignore the front half and you’re treating prospects like afterthoughts. Or not thinking about them at all.
The Lifecycle Today
The stages haven’t changed drastically – maybe just evolved slightly. Here’s how the customer lifecycle should be defined.
- Need Recognition: I have a problem to solve. (Note that Need may happen after Awareness.)
- Awareness: Initial scanning of possible solutions.
- Consideration: Researching, comparing, weighing options.
- Purchase/Onboarding: Decision made, trust still fragile, and loyalty isn’t guaranteed.
- Engagement: Where experience earns its keep and loyalty is won or lost.
- Retention: “Keep” has been earned!
- Advocacy: Customers tell your story and amplify your brand on your behalf.
Notice that there is no stage called “the customer walks in with cash and suddenly matters.”
TECHNOLOGY Helps. But Only So Much.
Today’s customer lifecycle is fast, nonlinear, and fueled by technology. AI, CRMs, and CDPs can spot patterns, predict needs, personalize experiences, and remove friction. They make the lifecycle faster, smarter, more connected.
But tech doesn’t excuse empathy. It doesn’t erase the human expectation for empathy. Customers want convenience, but they still want to be understood. One clunky chatbot, one creepy interaction, one missed emotional cue, and the Man in the Chair walks – straight to your competitor who gets both speed and humanity right.
Why It Matters
The stakes are higher than ever.
- One bad experience? Half of your customers won’t give you a second chance.
- The competition is closer and more accessible. Switching costs are near zero.
- The lifecycle is longer. A relationship-driven company sees the lifecycle as an ongoing loop, not as a one-and-done funnel. Certainly not as a transaction.
Every stage builds or erodes the relationship.
The lifecycle is not about how you want to sell. It’s about how customers actually buy, stay, and advocate.
Your Move
So back to the Man in the Chair. Will he even notice you? Will he move through the lifecycle with you? Or will he choose someone else before you ever had a chance?
If you’re still defining the lifecycle as starting at “purchase,” you’ve already lost him. To win, you have to:
- Start at Need.
- Show up with relevance before Awareness turns to indifference.
- Use AI for speed and humans for empathy.
- Treat every stage as a chance to create – not just to extract – value.
The customer lifecycle doesn’t begin with you. It begins with him. And if you don’t recognize that, the Man in the Chair will choose someone else who does.
In Closing
Let’s add a little more detail to that and propose your next steps.
Think about your customer lifecycle. How is it viewed within your organization? Where do you actually start? Are you waiting for the sale, or are you showing up when the Man in the Chair is just realizing he has a problem?
Map your customer’s journey from the very first spark of Need. Identify every touchpoint where you can create relevance, connection, and trust before the transaction.
Use technology to anticipate and accelerate, but never let it replace human understanding. When you treat every stage as a chance to build value, you turn casual observers into loyal advocates – and make the Man in the Chair choose you, not someone else.
Here’s a suggestion. Audit one customer segment or one customer persona today and pinpoint where their lifecycle truly begins. Adjust your strategy to engage them at that earliest point.
Get closer than ever to your customer. So close, in fact, that you tell them what they need well before they realize it themselves. ~ Steve Jobs
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