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There’s something wholesalers love to do near the end of a good meeting. It sounds reasonable. Helpful, even.
“Let’s lock something in.”
“Can we do a follow-up meeting?”
“How about two weeks from now?”
But here’s the thing most sellers don’t realize:
When you say “let’s lock something in,” the buyer hears a door closing.
Humans, buyers especially get real jumpy around closing doors.
(Doesn’t matter how nice the room is. Nobody likes feeling boxed in.)
Picture this like a stroll in a pasture.
Wholesaler and advisor have been walking together.
Talking.
Surveying the landscape together..
Then, as they near the end of the pasture, the wholesaler starts nudging the advisor toward an open gate.
Not aggressively.
Not rudely.
Just… decisively.
Click.
From the seller’s perspective, it’s progress. Through the gate lies opportunity!
From the buyer’s perspective, it’s pressure. That gate looks like a chute!
Pressure at the end changes the entire nature of the walk.
From dialogue to sales call. Ouch!
Most sellers do this inadvertently - they’re not trying to control the buyer.
They’re trying to be helpful.
They offer options:
- “Tuesday or Thursday?”
- “Next week or the week after?”
- “Let’s get something on the calendar.”
Here’s the subtle psychology problem:
Offering choices is still choosing the frame.
You’ve narrowed the pasture.
You’ve decided the direction.
You’ve switched from consultative to procedural right when trust is being evaluated most.
(That moment? That’s not a close. That’s a trust test.)
Buyers pull away because they feel the seller taking control away from them.
The moment a buyer feels less in control, they do what people have done since the dawn of time:
They stall.
They defer.
They “need to think about it.”
They ghost.
Out of self-preservation.
Here’s the alternative and it takes more confidence than any closing technique:
Give control of the close to the buyer.
Not as a tactic.
As a posture.
Instead of “Let’s lock something in,” try starting here:
- “What would you like to do next?”
- “How does this fit with your timing?”
- “What would be most helpful from your perspective?”
Then, this is the hard part, stop talking.
Let them drive.
Let them frame.
Let them tell you what they want, when, and why.
Because when a buyer feels in control, something interesting happens:
They stop defending.
They stop posturing.
They start collaborating.
Now you can align.
Suggest.
Bring your process in service of their preferences, not on top of them.
That’s a very different climate than “Let’s lock something in.”
A good rule of thumb:
If your close sounds efficient, it might feel constraining.
If your close feels a little open-ended, it often feels safer.
Safety, not urgency, is what trust grows in.
So the next time you feel the urge to steer at the end of the meeting, pause.
Ask yourself:
Am I helping them move forward or helping myself feel finished?
Buyers can tell the difference, and they vote with their calendars.
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